Saturday, November 13, 2010

"F" is for Frustration

I am currently experiencing parenting hardships. Ha, like that isn't a daily occurrence for every parent out there! But these days I find myself faced with new heights of frustration when it comes to parenting my toddler. First of all, let me say that it is so weird calling her a toddler. I mean, really, around here we still call her a baby. But I can't fool you all...she is a toddler. She will be 21 months in a couple of weeks. Which means she will be two in a couple of months. Ew, that's scary for me!

Back to my frustrations. Yes, my daughter is a delight. Really, she is! She walks around cute as can be, dancing and babbling along the way. She tries to blow her nose on her wipes as she is cleaning everything in sight. She does a great impression of a doggie! And she thinks she is hot stuff when she tells everyone good night. But lately she has shown me a new side of Presley. A side that is not so cute or delightful.

She screams, loudly, and a lot. She can't/doesn't talk. So, she cannot communicate to me what she wants when she wants something. So, she screams. And if I can't figure out what she is wanting she screams louder! Most of the time it is obvious what her desire is. But there are times that I give her all the options I can thing of and fail with each attempt. On these instances she gets extremely aggravated and, yeah, screams. If we are at the table eating she begins throwing her food and juice and whatever is within reach. If we are on the floor she kicks her feet and raises her voice. I think these are called "fits" or temper tantrums!

I know I am not the only parent to have ever gone through this type of thing. I am sure this is very common. So, what do I do? How do I remain calm when I my guesses at her needs are incorrect and the frustrations rise? Because let's be realistic folks, after a long day at work coming home to something like this does not make for the best case of patience. Again, I know this doesn't sound all that bad but realize this is technically my first attempt at the toddler age range. I don't want her to think that throwing fits will get he what she wants. On the other hand, I don't want her to have a need and me not be able to provide it. Wish me luck!!

1 comment:

Sara said...

Have you thought about teaching her a little sign language? She's at a great age to pick up on things like that quickly. Milk, banana, juice, water, nap, more, thank you, etc... So as she works on getting the words out verbally, she might be able to show you with her hands what she wants. :) good luck, lady! It is NOT an easy phase, that's for sure!